I Remember when 30 was old

30 things I have learned from 30 years of Marriage

October 5, 1986

Do you still remember when thirty was old?  I remember!!

And now I have been married for thirty years. When I say it out loud it sounds like a long time but it doesn’t feel that way.

We have survived working together, laughing together and crying together. It is by God’s grace that we have stuck together through the best of times and the absolute worst of times.

The year was 1986. Robert Palmer was still ‘addicted to love’. Top Gun ‘took our breath away’ and Bon Jovi was giving ‘love a bad name’.  Stirrup pants, leg warmers and shoulder pads had a home in my  closet. My hair was big and permed. The Space Shuttle Challenger exploded shortly after takeoff and Oprah started her own show.  Ronald Reagan was President and gas was $.89 a gallon.  I was not old enough to drink but I was old enough to vote.  Madly in love with my older brother’s friend from Mesic, I could hardly wait to become his wife.  I was fresh out of high school and he was an “older” man of twenty-six.

God blessed us with our first-born,  Zack (in 1998),  after twelve years of marriage and Nick came along almost six years later. Our precious Zack moved in with Jesus just after our 25th wedding anniversary.  Then, I gave birth to Samuel shortly after our 28th wedding anniversary!  Being parents to these boys has brought us indescribable joy and taught us strengths we did not know we possessed.

In honor of our 30th wedding anniversary this month, I have compiled a list of 30 things I have learned along the way.

1: When the honeymoon ends, true love begins.

2: Sex gets even better with age (I know I will embarrass my mom for posting this – but it’s true)

3: Time goes by fast.

4: Make good choices.

5: You can survive bad choices.

6: Keep your husband’s secrets.

7: Never badmouth your husband. Never!

8: Give compliments.

9: Say thank you! (often)

10: Take vacations without the kids.

11: Share hobbies. (your kids don’t count as a hobby)

12: Bad things sometimes happen.

13: Fix your hair every day.

14: Keep your legs shaved.

15: Dance together – even if it’s only in the kitchen.

16: Keep a sense of humor.

17: Back rubs never get old.

18: Hold hands.

19: Don’t let your kids run the show.

20: Guard who you allow in your life.

21: Go to sleep first if your husband snores.

22: Be spontaneous! (It’s fun to keep him guessing & being open to trying new things).

23: Be an encourager!

24: Read great books together.

25: Pray & worship God together.

26: Never stop dating.

27: Be willing to say I’m sorry.

28: Be a work in process with a lifetime contract (because happily ever after is a choice!

29: Never give up.

30: Be your husband’s biggest fan!


Bonus item: Don’t throw the ball any farther than you are willing to go and pick it up.  (This one comes from Mr. Duval Hardison , who ran a service station in the little town where we got married. Mr. Duval was old my whole life. I don’t know how long he was married, but it was a long time. I did not understand this advice at the time but I do now.


Happily ever after is not a fairy tale. It’s a choice. – Fawn Weaver


I am blessed to call Ernie Mayo my husband. I am his biggest fan! What have you learned along the way from your marriage? Leave a comment and let me know.


Be blessed in your marriage – a Moment at a Time!