My ‘almost’ Trump Twitter Moment

what kind of mother am I?

Today I almost had a Trump twitter moment. But, thankfully, I thought better of it. So, I decided to vent on my blog  express myself positively on my blog instead.

While I love all most of my social media friends, I  occasionally receive unsolicited advice and opinions which I  am certain come from well-meaning hearts (at least that is what I tell myself).  But, after receiving 15 similar messages in the past few months, today was the tipping point.

The messages go something like this – Wendy, when are you starting Sam in preschool? Wendy, have you signed Sam up for preschool yet? Some of them go on to remind me he needs socialization. Today’s message pointed out a study that showed children who start preschool early are less likely to do drugs or jail time.

So… does this mean if I don’t send my 2-year-old to preschool now that he is MORE likely to do drugs or jail time?

What kind of mother am I?

Here’s the kind of mother I am….

I am a mother who birthed 3 beautiful sons. I am a mother who buried the first one when he was 12. I am a mother who worries about childhood cancer. A lot. I am a mother who wants my boys to love God more than this world. I am a mother who used to compare herself to others. I am a mother who doesn’t do that anymore. I am a mother who loves her husband, the Father of her boys, and treats him with kindness, love and respect. I am a mother who requires good manners and clean hands. I am a mother who believes in dirty clothes, shoes and feet. I am a mother who believes in more books and less television. I am a mother who believes boys should be allowed to run wild and free. I am a mother who believes boys should learn self-control from their parents.  I am a mother who wants the very best from and for her children.

I am the mother God made me to be.

You are the mother God made you to be.

Mothering is work. Mothering is hard. Mothering is rewarding beyond measure.

Don’t compare yourself. Don’t second guess yourself. And never attempt to make another mother feel less than when they don’t “do life” the way you think it should be done. There are exceptions when children are abused or not cared for. But, sadly, I think we are all more inclined to push our advice and beliefs on those who need it least.

The beauty of being a parent in this great nation is that WE get to choose what is right for OUR  children.

I am a 50 year old momma with a 2 year old and a 13 year old (boys). I have been broken to the core by the loss of our first born. I have made decisions no mother should ever have to make.  I don’t doubt for a minute my mothering skills. For now, for OUR family, we are all the preschool he needs. But, thanks for asking.

Be blessed!


sam in the tree

Nick and Sam

Nick and Sam

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14 thoughts on “My ‘almost’ Trump Twitter Moment

  1. I love watching Sam “the fearless” explore his world. Dear Lord I can’t tell you how much I wish I would have sent more time with mine and less time at work. I miss those young years, so please enjoys yours Wendy and keep posting those pictures.

  2. Very well said!! Thank you for venting and sharing! God bless you and your family. I do not know you personally but have been following you since Zack’s accident. Prayed for him and your family. You are doing a great job. ??

  3. So much truth here. Sometimes, in what is best for our families, we go against what the experts say. I home schooled my autistic son for 12 years, while the experts said he needed more socialization. It was the best decision for him, and eventually, the experts agreed. Stick to your guns, even when your decision is unpopular. I think you are doing a great job!

  4. None of my living boys (we had one that died as well) went to preschool and they are all married, dads and productive members of society. Do what God leads you to do -you are the mom He gave to those precious boys.

  5. Personally I did not want my kids in preschool until age 4………… you mentioned, beauty is everyone choosing what is best for them. Enjoy your baby.

  6. People should be more concerned with their own families, because as you know that is a full-time job in itself. Some people just like to think they know what’s better for the “world”, when in fact, they don’t even know what’s best for their own household. It is absolutely obvious what a terrific mother you are and I love following your pictures and stories of your precious boys!

  7. Well said. I believe your children will learn far more from you and Ernie than they could ever learn in a school. Your children feel the love, they know what they can and cannot do, they get to travel and see things that most children will never see, all while learning. Every adventure you have is a teaching tool. Not all parents are cut out to be home schoolers, me being one, BUT you and Ernie are so qualified. I would put your children up against any public or private school child on testing and social skills. Well done Wendy and Ernie.

  8. Amen Wendy! I have followed your posts for years. I prayed for your sweet Zack every day. I cried and mourned when he went home to meet Jesus. I celebrated when you shared The birth of Sam and have watched Nick grow into a handsome young man. I love the picture of Sam in the tree, he looks like a little boy should! I’m a firm believer that kids should play outside so hard that sometimes they need to be hosed down outside before they can come in for a bath :) thank you for always being authentic. You are an amazing mom and wife and it’s a pleasure and a privledge to know you from a far.

  9. Good for you Wendy. I am sure you are doing an amazing job. With all the family love you have around you, what more could one ask for. Kids grow so fast it seems. Every moment is special. Enjoy while you can. You have a beautiful and loving family. God Bless you all.

  10. Well said, I stayed home with my children when they were small. We had to sacrifice some material things with only Jesse working , but I would do it all over again. They grow up way to fast.