The Empty Chair

Holiday Grief

Grief is so unpredictable.

Emptying a dishwasher, it crashes over me like an ocean wave.

Friends celebrate kids home from college, school being out and loved ones being together and all I can think about is the empty chair that will be at our table.

I have so much to be thankful for but I am deeply sad for what is missing. I miss our son. I miss his smile. I miss his voice and his silly jokes. I miss him picking at the turkey before it was time to eat. (Sigh)…

The empty chair waits for all of us who grieve. Thinking about sitting at the table of thankfulness without them is almost unbearable.

Please remember those who grieve as you celebrate with your healthy and living children.

And don’t forget to say Zack’s name to me. Please. Don’t be afraid to say it. I need to hear it. Because he is not forgotten.

And be gentle with all who are grieving this holiday season because the missing doesn’t go away.

The empty chair is there.

Be blessed.

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20 thoughts on “The Empty Chair

  1. Wendy, God uses you in mighty ways!! You always know exactly what to say to others. I have a daughter and her husband and their three children sharing Thanksgiving with us this year, but the empty chair of my daughter’s dad, and the empty chair, for the first time ever, of my mom, are very obvious as we gather in abundant thanksgiving. They will always be missed——on holidays and in little ways each day. My heart still breaks for you when I think about you losing Zack. God is using your hurt to comfort others! May God bless you and comfort you in your grief and in your sharing!!

    • Thank you for your kind words. I hope you have a wonderful day of remembering and making memories with your earthly family. Blessings!

  2. Wendy, I wish you and your family all peace, and comfort. I didn’t know Zack well, but i do remember when you and your husband came for a visit . I so him at church, and i told mom that he was the cuteis little baby i had ever seen. I also remember when i would call and talk to Jeff, he would tell me of his plans to take Zack to see a movie. All of you are in my prayers. Have a Happy Thanksgiving.

  3. My heart is sad for you too. For all who are missing someone…..I can’t imagine anyone who ever heard of your precious Zack would ever forget him. I do know I won’t ever forget him and his bravery, ( of course he has a brave Mom) and I am so Thankful you shared Zack with us and taught us how we can be Brave and especially what Love is really about, and all the time Praising the Lord, from where I am quite Certain you get your Strength. Prayers for a Blessed Thanksgiving, and perhaps we should all set out an empty chair as a vivid reminder of all the missing pieces of our heart.

  4. “GOD has the whole World in His Hands” and heart precious Wendy..Remember the song?” He has the Whole World in His Hands”) it may lend a gentle hug to you and your family on this day! GOD bless and gentle HUGS With LOVE “Always”, Charles

  5. Wendy, I had the privilege of getting to know Zack and your family during your treatment at Cincinnati Childrens. I have read several of your past posts and am so amazed by the words, strength, and avenue God has given to share your thoughts, wisdom, and journey over the years. Zack and your family touched many lives in Cincinnati and still continue to do so. Thank you for your words and for making sure we don’t forget the hurt of some of the families and friends around us. God bless and praying for a blessed holiday season.

    -Jenna, A5 Child Life

    • Thank you for your kind words of encouragement Jenna. It is wonderful to hear from you. Thank you for all you do for families like ours. Happy New Year!