Life After Death

cropped-zack54.jpgOur 12 year old son, Zack, moved in with Jesus just over three short years ago.

And while he is physically gone, he is always with me.

The pain of losing him is not as raw as it once was, but it is painful just the same.

When we found out I was pregnant, we felt this was truly a gift from God.

Baby Mayo

Baby Mayo

And then someone asked me if I was worried if this baby would get cancer too.

And someone made a comment about my age.

And someone said something about Zack being reincarnated in this baby.

Some people always want to take the wind out of your sail.

And there is always someone waiting to be negative because negative people need drama like oxygen.  But if we just ignore them, it takes their breath away. The less we respond to negative people the more peaceful our lives will become.  (and then there is always the “defriend”option – J)

This life…this life we have learned to live without our Zack is harder some days than others. This new life, this miracle, this gift, growing inside me will never take his place.  But this new life has breathed a new joy into our family.

Each time I feel a kick, I smile.

This video of Nick finding out about the baby will surely make you smile too.

God’s people have only one way to face life – confidently.  So, we will continue to live this life after death with confidence – a moment at a time.  I pray you will too.

Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.  ~Lamentations 3:22-24

PS – September Marks National Childhood Cancer Awareness Month – please support childhood cancer research by making sure you KNOW which organizations truly fund the research and only supporting those organizations.

big brother Nick

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26 thoughts on “Life After Death

  1. Hi Wendy! I had Zack in the 3 yr old class at Happy Kids. I think of y’all a lot, ad just wanted to say congrats on your pregnancy! I know it’s an exciting time!

    Meredith Olsko

  2. Wendy, so excited about the new member of the Mayo family. What a true gift from God, as all children are. Who said anything about your age? You are 29, right? Waiting anxiously to find out the sex of this beautiful Mayo baby.

  3. I live in Wilmington and have a now 13 YR old son. I live everyday in the moment because of Zack and now Alex N. I never take for granted the precious thing called life. I can only imagine the hole left in your hearts without these precious boys and I marvel in your strength and courage. God Bless and Congratulations!

  4. SO happy for you and your family and will be praying for you regularly as the pregnancy progresses. Such an exciting and wonderful way to start 2015. Nick is going to be an amazing big brother (and, of course, you and Ernie will be amazing parents. You have that role down pat!)

  5. This was such a wonderful entry to read, for it is so joy-filled. It was also a great reminder. Your description of negative people needing drama was spot-on! Blessings!

  6. Congratulations!! Tears of joy here in Ohio …. I was just thinking and wondering about all of you the other day! So, so happy! Lots of love to all of you!

  7. Hey sweetie, I was overwhelmed by your wonderful news, and you are such a glowing mommy… You are right about people being so dramatic and so negative, I’m so glad that it hasn’t changed you and your sweet family. Each time they have knocked the wind out of your sails you seem to find that new breeze that is blowing, and when it gets too rough God calms the wind. Keep smileing sweetheart . Love Karen

  8. Congratulations…..I love to read your post….You have felt pain, You have felt joy.
    God can turn negative into Blessings, Peace, Joy. We know that God has a BIG plan for your family. I pray for your family all the time……God has a purpose for your new gift of life…..

  9. How wonderful for you to be living your Passion to reach the lost for Christ, He is more than
    pleased, and I am so very Happy for you and your “growing” family……………. Love and Prayers

  10. Gee, is Nick happy, or what?!? That is s-o-o-o wonderful for all of you!! I am sorry that you are having to deal with negative comments!! I can’t believe what comes out of some people’s mouths!! How can they be so cruel to you?!? If they could just think before they speak.

    I lost my husband of 30+ years in 1999. I can NEVER replace him—–never!! But God did bless me with another man to love and be loved by him. He also lost his wife in 1999. We have been married for 13 years. He did not replace my first husband, but I am thrilled to be able to love again. It will be the same for you. You won’t replace Zack, but God is blessing you with another child to love and raise to love Him. Please don’t listen to others——-they may take away some of the glow and excitement, and that wouldn’t make Zack or Him happy!!

  11. I am so happy for everyone. This baby is a Blessing from God. I can’t believe the negative people. This is a joyous time. No one will ever forget Zack. God knows you all have so much love to give. Nothing can take that happiness away from Nick and his beautiful smile. May God Bless all your family. I will be praying for you. This is awesome news and I feel joy in my heart today. Hope Nick has a great school year.

  12. Congratulations on receiving God’s gift of this lovely new baby. She will be perfect and bring much joy to your family. I hope that the comments that people make are taken in the spirit in which they are given, for I feel that every comment is made with love; we may not know the right words to say, but our hearts are with you and your family, always.

  13. Hi Wendy- I am so very happy for all of you! Nick is going to be an awesome big brother!
    I hated to read what the negative people have said to you but I am not surprised. I decided a few years ago that I would just not associate with ANYONE who spends their time trying to take away my happiness (or anyone else’s for that matter). This has meant giving up some friendships and also some family members. But, you know what? What a blessing that has been! I no longer receive ugly, hurtful emails or phone calls from a relative who spent many hours a year trying to tell me everything that I did wrong in his eyes. Life is short, you know that very well, and there is no time to entertain negative people.Some people are toxic and there should be no place in your life for them. Trust me, they will find other people to try to bother! Haha.
    A friend of my in-laws tragically lost both of their son’s a few months apart about 24 years ago. It was just HORRIBLE. The mother (after some months) wanted to adopt a baby and talked the father into the idea. I remember hearing a few negative comments… that they were too old, why start again…that kind of thing. Well, they did it anyway because it was their decision after all. They agreed to adopt the unborn baby of a college student who was not ready to be a mother. The baby ended up being a girl which was wonderful as it was an entirely new experience for them! None of the naysayers predictions came true. They were NOT too old…they were WONDERFUL parents…they were NOT over protective (as some thought they would be).. but used great judgement parenting her as they had with their sons. That child is grown now and has been NOTHING but a delight! She is very accomplished, well adjusted and a VERY LUCKY young lady who adores her parents. They will one day get to see a child married, and maybe have children. What a blessing!
    So.. you go girl! You and your family can make ANY decision that you want to make! Clearly, you made the right one for Nick. He is thrilled! I am looking forward to hearing all about your pregnancy and can NOT wait to see photos of the precious baby girl or baby boy! How exciting!!
    I hope that you have an easy time of it. Rest when you need to rest!Most importantly, enjoy EVERY MINUTE!!!!!
    Sending much love!!!!!!

  14. Congratulations Mayo family!! Nick’s reaction is priceless!! May you continue to move forth in the confidence and blessing of the Lord!
    (You don’t know me, but we have a mutual friend ~ Tina Gonzales~ and I began praying for Zack just a couple of days after his accident and have followed your journey ever since.) I’m SO glad you are sharing your happy news and I’m so excited for you all! :-)
    God bless <3

  15. What a wonderful God we serve! Wendy I am so excited for you and your family. It was such a joy to me to see the excitement that Nick displayed. It gave me cold chills. You are a great servant of God. Thank you for being such a great example that God’s grace really is sufficient. I love you and your family and still pray for you all.