The other day I was chatting with a mom I don’t know very well. She shared about all the extra-curricular activties her kids were involved in….soccer, tennis, gymnastics, languages, music, scouts, basketball and school, tutoring and homework. I’m pretty sure she mentioned some other things but I just couldn’t keep up.
Her kids were scheduled in so many things, she confessed, that she felt more like a shuttle bus than a mom. She also mentioned her own tennis games, PTA, book club, yoga and something else?She went on to say that they never had time to have dinner as a family. They all went different directions on the weekends and weeknights and there was no way to fit in church because sports are on Saturday and Sunday and they were all exhausted. She then said that she doesn’t remember being this busy as a child and that her children were just too busy to have time to just play. Plus she continued – college is too competitive.
Two of her kids are under the age of 8. College is too competitive?
And I was tired just listening…
But here’s the thing.
As she rambled on and on….her comments really seemed to sound more like a boast than a complaint.
And I wasn’t sure if I was supposed to feel sorry for her or be jealous of her…
Isn’t much of the busyness in our lives self-imposed?
Children see what they are trained to see.
Is all our children see in us is “busy”?
Do we like seeing our children come home just as tired as grown ups?
Do we get so caught up in the busy that we forget?
Forget this life is but a vapor?
Forget childhood is a short season?
Forget that our kids have the rest of their adult life to choose to be “busy”?
Forget to let our children use their imaginations and not just schedule activities for them?
Forget to pull the ear buds out, turn off all the technology (their’s and ours)and just “be” with our kids?
Forget to pick up a rock and wonder why it looked that way – not because of some geology class but just because….?
Forget to slow down and savor the precious gift – the moment of now?
“Beware the barrenness of a busy life.” ~ Socrates
In this world of hurry – what are we really teaching our kids?
Do we equate “slowing down” with “not successful” – giving in once more to the world?
Does all the hurry make us hurt?
“slow never killed time. It’s the rushing and racing, the trying to catch up, this is what kills time – ourselves.” ~ Ann Voskamp A Holy Experience
How many times have we said “let’s get together soon – just to discover months have gone by and we bump into each other or chat online just to repeat that phrase once again?
Does being busy and over-scheduled make us feel important?
Shouldn’t busy be a season – not our daily lives?
And are our busy, frantic filled days really just a hedge to protect us from emptiness?
Because there is more to life than increasing its speed.
And in moving too fast, we may miss the real gift in the moment of now and the beauty we may find in the slow.
Don’t wait until life forces you to slow down because it just might.
Stand in awe,
and sin not….
and be still.
Selah. ~ Psalm 4:4